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Dreams Can Come True: The 7 Key Lessons to Turning Dreams into Reality

Early on in his career, college football coaching legend Lou Holtz made a list of 107 things he wanted to accomplish in his life. Among them were to go white water rafting, see the pyramids, meet the Pope, have dinner at the White House with a sitting president and be on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson. It took Holtz and his wife over 25 years but together they’ve accomplished 102 of those original goals.

My own dream list includes attending a national political convention (okay I’m weird), witnessing the opening ceremony at the Olympics, studying with a master antique book restorer, learning to water paint, taking a year-long sabbatical, and routinely taking the months of July and August off.

But the big dream that had been on the front burner for well over three years was finding a house with a view. I work at home. So where I live is really important to me. I have this thing about wanting to live in the country. Not in the woods though. I need space. Rolling hills, fields, maybe some cows in the background (I love cows!). Think pastoral, bucolic, peaceful, private.

As this dream evolved, I learned and re-learned some important lessons about dream making I’d like to pass along to you.

Lesson #1: Listen to Your Inner Voices

My obsession with a view began when I began spending time on a small peaceful lake in central New Hampshire. There’s nothing much to do there but sit out on the deck and gaze on the reflection of the mountains reflected in the lake and listen for the enchantingly eerie call of the loons.

Every summer I’d cart up dozens of books. But I rarely picked them up because it would mean taking my eyes off the view. I found it utterly mesmerizing. This little voice inside kept whispering, “Pay attention Valerie, pay attention.” Like most people I ignored these inner callings.

As the voice grew louder, it became clear that while everyone enjoys a view, I crave one. I knew then and there that I need the experience of having a view not for just a few  weeks a year — but every single day. I didn’t know then quite how I was going to pull it off but I knew I had to listen.

Lesson #2: Put Your Dreams Out There

Few people reach their dreams alone. You never know who might help you get where you want to be. It could be a casual acquaintance, your dentist, a neighbor, a coworker… But one thing is for sure, if you keep your dreams to yourself, you’ll never find out.

Throughout the last presidential election, I shared my dream of one day attending a national political convention with anyone who would listen. One such person was a seminar attendee who happened to be very high up at NBC news. Realizing an opportunity when I saw one, I pitched myself as an over-qualified but very eager intern willing to do whatever needed to be done… from making coffee, to making copies to doing van runs to the airport. He handed me his business card and told me he’d see what he could do.

Despite my champion’s best efforts, he wasn’t able to get me in. While witnessing the democratic process in action didn’t pan out, deliberately putting my dream out there got me closer than ever before. And, hey there’s always 2012!

Lesson #3: Be Selective About Who You Talk to About Your Dream

While making your dreams known is the key to finding champions, teachers, and other supporters, you also need to mindful of where NOT to look.

Take my friend Carol. She’s a great person, but she’s a bit of a cynic. When I told Carol that I wanted a house with a view, her response was, “Yeah, wouldn’t we all?” A short time later I had the pleasure of strolling along side a roaring brook. The experience reminded me of how healing the sound of moving water can be. So I decided to add a bubbling brook to my dream house wish list. When I told Carol about this latest addition she replied, “Well, you can’t always get what you want.”

Carol is right of course. You can’t always get what you want. But does the risk of not reaching a goal mean you just throw up your hands in defeat? As opera diva Beverly Sills once reminds us, “You may be disappointed if we fail, but you are doomed if we don’t try.”

Lesson #4: Believe You Can

Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can, or if you think you can’t, you’re right.” As trite as this last lesson may sound, believing your dream is attainable is fundamental to its success.

I need to be inspired as much as the next person. One place both Barbara Winter and I both go to when we need a boost of inspiration are the recording of the Making Dreams Happen workshop and retreat — and we were actually AT the event! I re-listened to one of Barbara Sher’s presentations recently and something she said reminded me of the powerful link between passion and belief.

Barbara was telling the group how deep down inside we all know what we want. “When someone says they don’t know what they want,” she says, “what they really mean is they don’t think that what they want is possible.” In other words, the reason most people never even attempt to go after their dream is because they don’t think they can.

I knew getting my dream house with a view wouldn’t be easy. First I’d have to do all the painting, repairing, and landscaping required to get my current house in shape to sell. Then I’d have to put the house on the market, which, since I planned to sell it myself meant taking photos, placing ads for open houses, and learning about all the legal hoops involved in selling real estate. I’d also need to spend countless hours scouring real estate listings, going to open houses and doing drive bys. I got so desperate at one point that I wrote to homeowners to see if they’d like to sell.

By far though I knew the most daunting task would be packing. You see I come from a long line of pack rats which meant confronting the monumental task of sorting through and packing 12 years of accumulated stuff, only to begin the unpacking all over again on the other end.

Between my travel schedule and my work commitments, I knew that achieving my dream would not be easy… but I always new it was possible. As Louisa May Alcott once wrote, “We all have our own life to pursue, our own kind of dream to be weaving… And we all have the power to make wishes come true, as long as we keep believing.”

Lesson #5: Take the Long View

Every so often I get a call for a Profit from Your Passion career consultation from someone who is having one of those “job from hell” days. The desire for immediate relief is understandable. After all when your job is toxic job you just want o-u-t, NOW!

Like these clients, you probably don’t want to hear this, but deep down you already know that making any real change takes time. At the same time you have to start somewhere. And the fact of the matter is that the next two years or five years or ten years are going to come and go as quickly as the last ones did – whether you do anything about your dream or not.

So where would you rather be when that time arrives – in the same place you are now or where you want to be? Yes, change takes time but it’s the small steps that will get you to that better future. Which leads us to our next lesson…

Lesson #6: Start Where You Are

The key to achieving any goal is to simply start. Start somewhere… anywhere. If you’re so up to your ears in debt, then start by making a plan to become debt free. If your life is so busy that you haven’t taken the time to even know what your dreams are, take some time this very week to find a quiet space and tune into your inner callings. If you need information about becoming an equine massage therapist, or bringing your product idea to market, or getting paid for your home design finesse – then get busy by finding and then learning from those who have already done it. The bottom line here – do what you can, but do something!

Lesson #7: Live in the Now

In an interview with Charlie Rose, Helen Hunt talked about how she got the career she always wanted. Although she wasn’t offering it as a tip, Hunt’s own experience of being grateful for what she had is informative. You see, for Hunt the four Emmys, the five Golden Globes, the Oscar and all of the rest were but icing on an already rich cake. Reflecting on her years as part of the Mad About You television show’s creative team, Hunt told Rose, “If none of these other things had happened and I’d had only that, I would have been a very, very lucky actress.”

It would have been easy to focus on what I didn’t like about the house I already had – it was a busy street, the houses were too close together, one of my neighbors drove me up the wall. And yet, despite aggressively pursing my dream house, I never lost sight of what I already had.

On the most basic level, I had more than millions of people around the world – a roof over my head, a bed to sleep in, heat, safety. It was also a warm, inviting, and aesthetically pleasing home. If I’d lived in that home for the rest of my life, I would have still been very lucky indeed.

The lesson here is to not focus so much on what lies ahead that you fail to appreciate past and present blessings. Taking stock of how rich your life is right now will make any future success all the sweeter.

A Room With a View

It took three years, but here I sit in my fabulous new home in the country. Perched on a hill, the house offers views on all four sides… cows in the east pasture, grand sunsets over the hills to the west, woods full of cardinals and the occasional deer out the back. And I was happy to report to Carol, a bubbling brook right outside my front door!

“Well that’s nice for her,” you may be thinking, “but I don’t have that kind of money.” I understand what it’s like to be strapped. When I left my high paying corporate job my income dipped nearly in half. There have been times I’ve wondered how I’d pay the bills. Over time I’ve managed to build my income up to more than my previous salary. Still, I didn’t buy a “starter mansion” and I’m not a wealthy person.

Money, or the lack of money, is not necessarily a prerequisite to realizing a dream. True, if I hadn’t had the good fortune to have had a starter home to sell I could not have afforded the house I got. But that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have found another way to get my view.

For example, I could have found a lower priced fixer upper. Or, I could have rented. Even better, I probably could have lived rent free as a property caretaker.

My new dream? Hiking to the bottom of the Grand Canyon!

So what are your dreams? Which one is speaking to you loudest right now? Where can you find support for your dream? Who can you safely share your dream with… who can support your dream of loving what you do? What are you grateful for right now?

Margaret Bourke White wrote, “Action stops fear.” Whether you dream of running tours in Italy or being a motivational speaker or working with horses or restoring old buildings, one truth remains. There may be many steps, but there is only one next action. What small step can you take not tomorrow, not next week, but literally this very day to take action in the service of your dream?

P.S. Would you like to experience what it’s like to live and work in a setting that makes your soul sing? Join me and a very small (6-8) people here at my home in the hills of western Massachusetts. Right now, half the spots for the Profiting from Your Passions Workshop and Retreat are taken. Click here to learn more about this unique, highly personalized event.

There are 15 comments. Add yours.

  1. Dear Valerie

    I’m sitting at my desk. It’s 8.00 am on a cold, grey English morning. I have a view. I’ve made a cup of tea and opened my e-mails. I look out onto the sea in Brighton, Sussex. I am very, very lucky.

    I’ve started a new direction, a new life, a new business and it’s taking so long to set it up, to do all the 101 things that need doing. This week has felt frustrating because things are not happening as quickly as they need to.

    Thank you for your blog. You’ve reminded me that, on average it takes 3 years to set up and run a business, and I’ve only been going 6 months. You’ve reminded me that I am lucky to live in this apartment in a Georgian house on Brighton seafront.

    You’ve reminded me that I just need to stick to my dream, believe in myself and let life unfold – even take the odd hour out of the day to walk on the beach and look at the sea.

    You’ve reminded me that even if this venture fails, I’m lucky. I have a wonderful supportive family, and at least I tried.

    You’ve reminded me that at just about 66 (next month), I am living the life I always wanted to.

    You’ve reminded me that even if things are not moving as fast as I think they should (that awful word) do, I am going to France for a month and Spain for another month later on, this year. How lucky is that.

    Thank you Valerie for your peaceful, thoughtful blog. I wish you success in your business and for your workshop. Maybe one day I will get there to attend myself.

    Penelope Young (don’t we have a great surname? We will never be ‘old’)

    • Wow Penelope — you are indeed “lucky” to be going to such wonderful places. And yet, it is all because you made your own luck via hard work and perseverence.

      Your reply inspired me!

  2. Pat

    I really liked this. I have a coffee mug that says,”Follow your dreams; for as you dream, so shall you become.” by James Allen. I like the constant reminder! At 52, I’ve started my MBA online, and followed my dream to further higher education on the continent of Africa. Now, I’m moving to Mazatlan-not for my dream, but for the dream of my disabled adult son, whose dream is to pursue his writing career “with a view”. I have more dreams, but for now, it brings me great joy to share in his.

  3. You are so right on Valerie and your own story is inspiring. While I encourage others to live their dreams, I sometimes need to take a breath and look at where I am with mine -your ezine prompts me to do that!

    • We all need encouragement — even those of us who, as you say, have as our calling to encourage others. Thanks for taking a moment to chime in Ann!

  4. Brooklyn Evans

    our local shop is giving away some free coffe mugs that are also of high quality,~:`

  5. my favorite coffee mug are those that are made from porcelain or ceramic.*`

  6. There is nothing like a favorite mug! As I head upstairs to make a cup of green tea, you have inspired me to be sure to use the one I had made up for that wonderful workshop and retreat I did 5? years ago with the fabulous Barbara Sher and Barbara Winter. We named the event Making Dreams Happen… which seems more appropriate than ever since so many are searching for a way to go from dreaming to doing!

    Thanks for the reminder!


  7. Nate B

    Any advice for me?

    I got a voice telling me to go be a rock star, and another voice telling myself “This isn’t your passion. You’re not addicted to it, and you don’t live, eat, and sleep music.” However, music is the only I have a real talent in, but at the same time I don’t like thinking about being 60, not being anywhere, and thinking I wasted my life pushing music for no reason.

    I believe in dreams, I believe those with a burning desire can achieve them, but I’ve never had a burning desire for music. I don’t feel I have the emotional juice to risk it all on something I don’t necessarily believe is my calling anyway.

    At the same time, whenever I’m NOT doing music, or searching in another career field, another voice says “You’re off track” and I feel like crap.

    It’s an interesting situation that’s been going on for a few years. For now I’m working on some songs and am considering fishing them out to the town to see if I can rally up a band. What I want is a definitive answer and a burning desire. I’d have no problem chasing a dream if I actually had a dream. I know all of the tools to get there, but I just don’t know where to go.

  8. Hi Nate,

    It sounds like you are locked into all or nothing thinking… either you’re 100 percent into the music career or 100 percent out.

    Music is important to you, that’s clear.

    But you say its the only thing you’re “talented” in which is why you may also feel a bit trapped by it. What if you focused less on what you’re “good” at (I’m good at typing and mowing the lawn but I don’t want to do either one for a living) and focus more on the things you love to do or interest you. You can always acquire a skill… but it’s tough to acquire a passion for something that does not interest you.

    Make sense?

    Valerie Young

  9. It makes you wonder how I happen to be here

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