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Issue 210

June 25, 2009

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Opportunity Knocks

Dreams Can Come True: The 7 Key Lessons to Turning Dreams into Reality 

Featured Resource

7 Secrets to Attracting All the Clients You Want

In the Garden

Learning Opportunities

  • Turning Interests Into Income

The View From the Other Side

Resources for a Change

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Don't be a spectator, don't let life pass you by. ~ Lou Holtz

Opportunity Knocks: Creative Ways to Make a Living Without A Job

Dreams Can Come True: The 7 Key Lessons to Turning Dreams into Reality

Valerie Young

By Valerie Young

Early in his career, college football coaching legend Lou Holtz made a list of 107 things he wanted to accomplish in his life. Among them were to go white water rafting, see the pyramids, meet the Pope, have dinner at the White House with a sitting president and be on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson. It took Holtz and his wife over 25 years, but together they’ve accomplished 102 of those original goals.

My own dreams list includes attending a national political convention (okay I’m weird), witnessing the opening ceremony at the Olympics, spending at least a month on every continent, studying with a master antique book restorer, learning to water paint, taking swimming lessons, taking a year-long sabbatical, and routinely having summers off.

A big dream for me was finding a house with a view. I work at home so where I live is really important to me. I have this thing about wanting to live in the country. Not in the woods, though. I need space. Rolling hills, fields, maybe some cows in the background (I love cows!). Think pastoral, bucolic, peaceful, private.

I’ve been doing a fair amount of reflecting on the evolution of this dream and what I’ve learned in the process. What I’ve discovered is that there are seven key lessons to realizing a dream.

Lesson #1: Listen to Your Inner Voices

My obsession with a view began five years ago when I started vacationing on a small peaceful lake in central New Hampshire. There’s nothing much to do there but sit out on the deck and gaze at the reflection of the mountains in the lake and listen for the enchantingly eerie call of the loons.

Despite carting up dozens of books, I found I rarely picked them up because it would mean taking my eyes off the view. I found it utterly mesmerizing. This little voice inside kept whispering, “Pay attention Valerie, pay attention.” Like most people, I ignored these inner callings.

As the voice grew louder, it became clear that while everyone enjoys a view, I craved one. I needed the experience of having a view not for just one week out of the year but every day. I didn’t know quite how I was going to pull it off but I knew I had to listen.

Lesson #2: Put Your Dreams Out There

Few people reach their dreams alone. You never know who might help you get where you want to be. It could be a casual acquaintance, your dentist, a neighbor, a coworker… But one thing is for sure, if you keep your dreams to yourself, you’ll never find out.

Throughout the last presidential election, I shared my dream of one day attending a national political convention with anyone who would listen. One such person was a seminar attendee who happened to be very high up at NBC news. Realizing an opportunity when I saw one, I pitched myself as an over-qualified but very eager intern willing to do whatever needed to be done… from making coffee, to making copies, to doing van runs to the airport. He handed me his business card and told me he’d see what he could do.

Despite my champion’s best efforts, he wasn’t able to get me in. While witnessing the democratic process in action didn’t pan out, deliberately putting my dream out there got me closer than ever before. And, hey there’s always 2012!

Lesson #3: Be Selective About Who You Talk to About Your Dream

While making your dreams known is the key to finding champions, teachers, and other supporters, you also need to mindful of where NOT to look.

Take my friend Carol. She’s a great person, but she’s a bit of a cynic. When I told Carol that I wanted a house with a view, her response was, “Wouldn’t we all?” While walking my dog along a roaring stream I realized how healing I find the sound of moving water. So I added a bubbling brook to my wish list, to which Carol replied, “Well, you can’t always get what you want.”

Carol is right of course. You can’t always get what you want. But does the risk of not reaching a goal mean you just throw up your hands in defeat? As opera diva Beverly Sills reminds us, “You may be disappointed if we fail, but you are doomed if we don’t try.”

Anyone can develop a sense of optimism – even natural cynics.

Lesson #4: Believe You Can

Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can, or if you think you can’t, you’re right.” As trite as this lesson may sound, believing your dream is attainable is fundamental to its success.

I need to be inspired as much as the next person. One place both Barbara Winter and I both go when we need a boost of inspiration are theMaking Dreams Happen Audio Program of which we are both a part. Listening once again to one of Barbara Sher’s presentations reminds me of the powerful link between passion and belief.

Barbara was telling the group how deep down inside we all know what we want. “When someone says they don’t know what they want,” she says, “what they really mean is they don’t think that what they want is possible.” In other words, the reason most people never even attempt to go after their dream is because they don’t think they can.

I knew getting my dream house with a view wouldn’t be easy. First I’d have to do all the painting, repairing, and landscaping required to get my current house in shape to sell. Then I’d have to put the house on the market, which, since I planned to sell it myself meant taking photos, placing ads for open houses, and learning about all the legal hoops involved in selling real estate. I’d also need to spend countless hours scouring real estate listings, going to open houses and doing drive bys. I got so desperate at one point that I wrote to homeowners to see if they’d like to sell.

I knew the most daunting task would be packing, by far. You see I come from a long line of pack rats which meant confronting the monumental task of sorting through and packing 12 years of accumulated stuff, only to begin the unpacking all over again on the other end.

Between my travel schedule and my work commitments, I knew that achieving my dream would not be easy… but I always knew it was possible. As Louisa May Alcott once wrote, “We all have our own life to pursue, our own kind of dream to be weaving… And we all have the power to make wishes come true, as long as we keep believing.”

Lesson #5: Take the Long View

Every so often I get a call for a career consultation from someone who is having one of those “job from hell” days. The desire for immediate relief is understandable. After all when your job is toxic job you just want o-u-t, NOW!

Like these clients, you probably don’t want to hear this, but deep down you already know that making any real change takes time. At the same time, you have to start somewhere. And the fact of the matter is that the next two years or five years or ten years are going to come and go as quickly as the last ones did – whether you do anything about your dream or not.

So where would you rather be when that time arrives – in the same place you are now or where you want to be? Yes, change takes time but it’s the small steps that will get you to that better future. Which leads us to our next lesson…

Lesson #6: Start Where You Are

The key to achieving any goal is to simply start. Start somewhere… anywhere. If you’re so up to your ears in debt, then start by making a plan to become debt free. If your life is so busy that you haven’t taken the time to even know what your dreams are, take some time this very week to find a quiet space and tune into your inner callings. If you need information about becoming an equine massage therapist, or bringing your product idea to market, or getting paid for your home design finesse – then get busy by finding and then learning from those who have already done it. The bottom line here – do what you can, but do something!

Lesson #7: Live in the Now

In an interview with Charlie Rose, Helen Hunt talked about how she got the career she always wanted. Although she wasn’t offering it as a tip, Hunt’s own experience of being grateful for what she had is informative. You see, for Hunt the four Emmys, the five Golden Globes, the Oscar and all of the rest were but icing on an already rich cake. Reflecting on her years as part of the Mad About You television show’s creative team, Hunt told Rose, “If none of these other things had happened and I'd had only that, I would have been a very, very lucky actress.”

It would have been easy to focus on what I didn’t like about the house I already had – it was a busy street, the houses were too close together, one of my neighbors drove me up the wall. And yet, despite aggressively pursuing my dream house, I never lost sight of what I already had.

On the most basic level, I had more than millions of people around the world – a roof over my head, a bed to sleep in, heat, safety. It was also a warm, inviting, and aesthetically pleasing home. If I’d lived in that home for the rest of my life, I would have still been very lucky indeed.

The lesson here is to not focus so much on what lies ahead that you fail to appreciate past and present blessings. Taking stock of how rich your life is right now will make any future success all the sweeter.

A Room With a View

It took three years, but here I sit in my fabulous home in the country. Perched on a hill, the house offers views on all four sides… cows in the east pasture, grand sunsets over the hills to the west, woods outside my office window to the north, and I was happy to report to Carol, a bubbling brook to my south.

Valerie's View“Well that’s nice for her,” you may be thinking, “but I don’t have that kind of money.” I understand what it’s like to be strapped. When I left my high paying corporate job eleven years ago my income dipped nearly in half. There have been times I’ve wondered how I’d pay the bills. Over time I’ve managed to build my income up to more than my previous salary. Still, I didn’t buy a “starter mansion” and I’m not a wealthy person.

Money, or the lack of money, is not necessarily a prerequisite to realizing a dream. True, if I hadn’t had the good fortune to have had a starter home to sell I could not have afforded the house I got. But that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have found another way to get my view.

For example, I could have found a lower priced fixer upper. Or, I could have rented. Even better, I probably could have lived rent free as a property caretaker.

My new dream? Summers off! I can’t swing it this year because of my book deal, but I’m seriously looking at taking off at least a portion of the summer of ‘10.

So what are your dreams? Which one is speaking to you loudest right now? Where can you find support for your dream? Who do you need to make a conscious effort not to share your dream with? What are you grateful for right now?

Whether it’s finding the cure for cancer, or improving the schools in your community, or finding your dream job, there may be many steps, but there is only one next action. What small step can you take not tomorrow, not next week, but literally this very day in the service of your dream?

P.S. I hope you got my email on Tuesday about Russell Brunson, the internet entrepreneur who is walking away from his company to pursue his dream of competing in the Olympics. Russell is also the guy who invented a simple way to set up a recurring stream of income month after month using a concept called “micro-continuity.”

For a very limited time he’s offering to give you 6 hours of step-by-step training all pre-loaded onto a MP3 player for FREE. All you pay is shipping and handling. (By the time you read this, he may be sold out.)

I’ve seen Russell speak twice and it’s an amazing program – and an incredible opportunity.

Whether you have a business already or are in the idea phase, if you are interested in creating some recurring income online, I can’t say enough about this program. It’s the only model I know of where you can literally be up and running in 48 hours! Click here for the details:

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About the Author

"Turning Interests Into Income" expert, Valerie Young, abandoned her corporate cubicle to become the Dreamer in Residence at offering resources to help you discover your life mission and live it. Her career change tips have been cited in Kiplinger's, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today Weekend, Woman's Day, and elsewhere and on-line at MSN, CareerBuilder, and An expert on the Impostor Syndrome, Valerie has spoken on the topic of How to Feel as Bright and Capable as Everyone Seems to Think You Are to such diverse organizations as Daimler Chrysler, Bristol-Meyers Squibb, Harvard, and American Women in Radio and Television.

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Featured Resource

7 Secrets to Attracting All the Clients You Want

Let's face it, there's a lot of conflicting advice out there about what it REALLY takes to attract new clients and grow a successful business. And it's all getting so confusing!

Valerie Young and Bernadette Doyle

That's where Bernadette Doyle comes in.Bernadette has been helping people to attract new clients and win new business for over 13 years and she’s noticed that what USED to work to get clients is NO LONGER working.

The two of us spent a year together in the same Mastermind group. It didn't take long to see how Bernadette was able to single-handedly take her own business from six figures to now seven figures, all while juggling a toddler and a newborn. And it's because she's been helping people at all phases of their business to win new business and get new clients for the last 13 years.

I’ve made special arrangements for you to join Bernadette on this special TWO-PART teleseminar series that’s starting June 30 called ‘7 Secrets to Attracting All The Clients You Want’. (Yes – she’s got so much to share with you she has to cover it in two calls!) On these calls, she'll show you:

  • The real reason you don’t have all the clients you want – and SIMPLE changes you can make right now to attract an abundance of clients

  • How to cut through the clutter of conflicting and confusing advice and get you focused on what works right now to get the clients you want

  • How to find the groups of people you are meant to serve – and why (and where) they’re looking for you RIGHT NOW!

  • What you don't need to get new clients (stop wasting your precious time and energy on things that don’t work)

  • Why visibility is not enough to bring you the clients that you want – and the missing link that is the key to getting all the clients you want

  • 3 real-life lessons learned from business owners, and how they are soaring while others struggle (you'll want to hear what Bernadette and other 7-figure colleagues are doing so you can model what works.)

  • And much, much, much more!

I know some of you haven't yet started a business. Others have non-internet type businesses like massage therapy and nutritional counselling.

I talked to Bernadette and she said it really doesn't matter whether you’re just starting out or an established business owner, whether your business is online or off. Either way she’s going to show you what WORKS right NOW to attract all the clients you want. And she’s going to show you HOW on this call.

That's why it makes sense to attend this teleseminar series and get your hands on these little known secrets to attracting all the clients you want.

And remember, because I'm co-sponsoring this teleseminar, you now can attend as my special "VIP" guest at no charge!

Whether you are an established business owner or just starting out, you are going to discover what is working right now for Bernadette, her clients and her 7-figure colleagues.

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Men do less than they ought, unless they do all they can. ~ Thomas Carlyle


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In the Garden

From Corporate Airline Employee to Film Maker

From time to time I like to feature the progress of readers who are actively pursuing their dream of self-bossing. In past issues I've talked about how growing a dream is a lot like growing a garden. It starts with the desire for growth. Then, just as you would ready the soil for planting, you must prepare your mind. You may, for example, need to work on believing that you deserve to be happy, that it's okay to want to both make good money and find your work enjoyable too, and that it really is possible to live life on your own terms.

If you have any doubt that you can turn really any passion into your income then you haven't met the following dreamer...

Chris Rentzel started composing music at age seven. Early years were spent musically. Chris went on to study photography in college, then landed traditional jobs, and continued to be creative. Later, Chris combined music, photography, and his weird sense of humor in a series of short films.

Because of those films, Chris was chosen to co-produce “The Jack E. Jett” television show. After the death of his stepfather James Crowe, a celebrated local sculptor, Chris felt a calling to paint with watercolor. Since then, Chris quit his full-time job to pursue filmmaking, music, and photography.

I'll let Chris share his latest news with you in the email I received this week:

Hi Valerie,

I hope this finds you well! I am guessing that it will!

You had told me, during my film-making pursuits, that whenever I had some good news that you would share it with your readers. I would love to take you up on that!

My film, THE MANY STRANGE STORIES OF TRIANGLE WOMAN, has been picked up (through my Distributor) by Netflix! So that means it's available to everyone who has a Netflix account. It now has a chance to find its audience!

If you remember, I quit my good job at Southwest Airlines in May 2006 to pursue this dream. Although I've yet to see any profits, the experiences I have had, and the life path that I am now on, are so more in line with who I am as a person, that I credit everything I have in my life now to taking that risk.

Below are the links to the Netflix website and the film's website. I hope you will share the good news with your readers!

Thanks for the support and your help in getting me to this point!

All the best,
Chris Rentzel

Film Site:

Netflix link:

Chris had this great quote on his website by Mark Twain and I think it's perfect for all dreamers:

“Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that. But the really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

Who do you surround yourself with that will help you do great things? Thanks, Chris, for sharing your latest success! 

When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.

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It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness. ~ Chinese Proverb


The View From theOther Side

"People who are out there, and are self-motivated, and they have a dream, I would tell them to pursue that dream. There’s going to be a lot of struggles along the way, but what I learned is that, if you try, and it doesn’t succeed, you’re not a failure. But you’ll never know [what you can do] unless you try.”

~Stephanie Stober, FlaxUSA



Resources for a Change

Start Your Own In-Home Pre-School I mentioned Joy Anderson in an email earlier this week when I talked about Russell Brunson's Micro-Continuity program. Joy started her own in-home pre-school as a way to remain a stay-at-home Mom and make money at the same time. Today she earns in 5 hours what a typical day-care provider makes in 8 hours, and with no poopy diapers! If you love kids and want to learn more about how you can earn part-time or full-time income from your own pre-school visit Joy at

Start Your Own Home-Based Summer Camp Could you succeed with a home-based camp of your own? If you have something you love to do, the basic approach described in this book will work for teaching many subjects: jewelry making, cheerleading, art, science, tennis, computers, drama, photography, chess, moviemaking, basketball, rock hounding, yoga, sewing, knitting, carpentry, gardening, or pottery — whatever you can dream up! Find out what to do (and not to do) to develop a home-based camp. You’ll find advice on marketing, how to grow your camper base, where to find potential campers, how to plan field trips, and how to set up your daily schedule. Learn more at

FabJob This site features "how to" guides to starting a wide range of livelihoods like catering, acting, floral design, screen writer, personal fitness trainer, wedding planner, yoga teacher, etiquette consultant, art curator, stand up comic, and butler… just to name a few.


Note: Changing Course does not accept paid advertisements from any of the resources listed here. This list is provided to expand your thinking about just how many interesting ways there are to make a living without a job!