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You’re smart and successful, so why do you feel like a failure? It may be you have Impostor Syndrome, a term coined by clinical psychologist Dr. Pauline Clance, to describe doubt in your own abilities and fear of not maintaining your success. Glamour reveals some expert tips to ensure you put your trust in your talent.
You think: “There can’t have been many people to choose from.”
Dr. Valerie Young, who runs Impostor Syndrome workshops, explains: “Although you should see the promotion as a vote of confidence, you convince yourself it is anything but that.”
Solution: “Put yourself in the shoes of the people promoting you,” says Dr. Young. “They’re not going to do it unless they think you’re up to it. After all, their reputation depends on it, too. Replace ‘Oh no! What am I doing?’ with ‘Wow! I’m really going to learn a lot.’”
You think: “I don’t deserve it. There must be some mistake.”
Solution: “You must take control of your negative mindset immediately,” says life coach Fiona Harrold, author ofIndestructible Self-Belief (Piatkus Books, £4.99). “If you allow your self-doubt to run riot, you’ll undermine yourself and your employer will start to wonder why they did give you that rise. Sit down and think of compelling reasons why you’re worth every extra penny. Justify it to yourself and recognize how valuable you are to the organization.”
You think: “I know I’m going to mess this up.”
Solution: “Make choices based on what gives you a sense of fulfillment, not fear,” says Dr. Clance. You don’t want to take on an impossible task as that will just reinforce your feelings of inadequacy. And Cary Cooper, professor of organizational psychology and health at Lancaster University, reminds us: “There’s nothing wrong with asking for help.”
You think: “Will I be able to cope? And won’t my colleagues be jealous?”
Solution: “Every time you step into a new role, it takes a few months to find your feet,” says Dr. Young. “Whether the move will generate jealousy or not depends on your current reputation and rapport with other staff members. Although you may become your colleagues’ superior, make sure you are inclusive and maintain good relationships with them all.”
I decided to take the Work @ What You Love Workshop and also work one-on-one with Valerie. The workshop explored so many unusual and unexpected solutions to my specific questions. I made so many new connections to what clearly works for me in crea...